We are moving forward in the next phase of working on Killian’s delays. Like I mentioned in a previous post, we went to a specialist at the hospital that told us he was delayed and kept saying, with her sweet Thai smile “o no good.” I have tried to implement every recommendation that she gave us. She assured me that I would not be able to find a speech therapist that speaks English and I was Killian’s best option. After a month and half, my son has become a little more social with improvements with his eye contact but his speech has not. It does not matter what I do to change this, he is simply choosing not to talk to us with words we can understand. He does currently have a special language that he uses.
We have decided that we are not the best teachers for Killian in helping him to speak. I started to search out different options for help with developmental delays in Bangkok. Yesterday I visited the Reed Institute in Bangkok. I met with the director and explained everything that has happened with Killi. How he was talking, went mute when we moved to Bangkok, our disgruntled nanny that was clearly affecting him, our new nanny that he loves and the progress he has made in the last two months with his babbling.
I understand that some kids do not speak until they are three, every child is different and everyone is quick to tell me that I am worrying over nothing. The doctor confirmed that it isn’t a big deal if a two year old isn’t talking yet but because my son was talking and isn’t now, there was a clear regression that is a point of concern. He explained that it is better to put the work in now instead of waiting to see if he does have delays that need to be addressed.
We started our program today, which consists of a two-week evaluation, five days a week for 2-3 hours of playtime for Killi. During the evaluation the doctor is going to check everything possible in regards to his development, the previous doctor did this same test in 10 minutes in the hospital. During our first two hours today, Killian had a blast and really clicked with the doctor.
After two weeks, the doctor will provide me with reading materials that we will go through together and a step-by-step plan to help Killian improve in the areas where he needs help, obviously speech being the main concern. Finally someone that will actually teach me how to help my son. We will be going back to the center five days a week for 2-3 hour session until December.
This evaluation is used to diagnose autism although my doctor isn’t looking to label him, he simply wants to give me the tools to help my son. So either way, if he is or isn’t, whatever delays we find he will have help and Killian will show massive improvements by December.
It was great to watch my son play today, with the doctor there to observe and explain everything that is going on and how he is reaching certain markers. It’s an amazing feeling when someone is telling you “o that’s good! you see what he did just then?” instead of in broken English “ooo this no good”.
At the end of our first day, the doctor looks at me and says “Killian is a very clever boy, he is persistent and a problem solver. I am confident we will see massive improvements before December.” I explained I will read, study, watch and do anything it takes to help my son.
I do ask that you keep all of us in your prayers. As we move through this process I will be blogging so that other parents that might be in this similar situation can have some information to compare it to. I see how God is guiding me and is making it very clear that I am to be focusing all of my efforts on my son at the moment. This is our next big adventure.