Killi Therapy Week 3: Objects vs People

Killi & Yuki at therapy

Killi & Yuki at therapy

Part of my sons issues have to do with being social. I can understand why he wouldn’t want to be social in Thailand, everyone here makes such a big deal about a white baby. They have to squeeze his legs, pinch his cheeks, pat his head, try to kiss him, and are always shouting “hey boy!!” to get his attention. I totally understand why he doesn’t want anything to do with people. Imagine how much easier his life is when he ignores everyone (except for mom and dad) and acts like people are completely invisible! It’s funny how we all adapt to different situations and this is how my son is dealing with the harassment he receives the moment he leaves the house.

I am sure this constant touching and being “hollered” at like he is a beautiful woman walking by a construction site or I guess really a farang man walking down soi 33 by the “working girls” would have him retreat into his shell and not want to come out is greatly impacting his condition in a negative way.

When we arrived at the Reed Institute for the evaluation Killi had absolutely no interest in the therapist or in the staff but only a few toys but one in particular was an addition and subtraction toy that is made entirely of buttons that “click”. He could sit and play with this the entire time if we had let him. This is part of the reason why he was diagnosed with social delays because he prefers objects (toys or really anything) over people.

To help our son with this the therapist gave us some tips on how to engage him more. We were told to “go to his spot light”, this means find whatever he is focusing on go and sit with him face to face and narrate what was going on. This isn’t narrating in the way of constant chatter, it should only be a few words. For example, when rolling his truck I would sit in front on him on the floor, and say “truck go” or “zoom” in a very exaggerated way in the hopes that being over the top would get a smile, a giggle and (the key component) EYE CONTACT! Our doc says that eye contact is what is firing the neurons in his brain and these neurons going off are rewiring that cute little brain of his!

Weeks have gone by now and we have been at the Reed Institute everyday for a couple of hours a day working hard on his therapy and it has finally paid off! Don’t get me wrong we are nowhere near finished but my son is now interested in people. When the other kids are having craft time he will put down the object he is playing with and go see what they have going on and participate. This is huge progress. He is so curious and wants to see what is going on with everyone. Today we had a birthday at the institute and my son, who only a few weeks ago wanted nothing to do with anyone, went straight to the cake, was in the procession the kids singing happy birthday and asked to be picked up to help blow out the candles. He put himself in the middle of all of that commotion and wasn’t looking for mommy, he did it all on his own. Another huge leap forward in his therapy is that he is initiating play. Instead of us trying to go to him and figure out what it is he wants my son will come grab my hand or the doctors hand and ask (in his nonverbal way) to be chased or to be wrestled. Again, with him initiating the play it shows us that he wants to be around people and is enjoying the fun playtime that comes with giving people attention.

I am so proud of the progress that he has made in such a short amount of time. Our doctor says that he is way ahead of schedule, I love that my son is an overachiever! Next week in therapy, the plan is to start making this play therapy more structured, which will eventually help prepare him for preschool, instead of being the wild child in class Killi will know how to behave properly in that setting.

Stay tuned…




  1. So happy things are working for Killi and you all. God will see you through this tough yet fragile time in your life. Your mag article was amazing, like you.

  2. What wonderful news! I will send this e-mail to the Prayer Chain for an update as well as the Christian Bros. In India who are praying for Killian and all of you. Good work so far and confident it will continue..God is Good! God Bless..Terry Bays

  3. Becky, I am so glad that Killi is having such good progress and I think it is wonderful the way you keep the communication going from the other side of the world. I can’t tell you how glad I am that Chris has you. Love y’all.Dad Horace

  4. Way TO GO Killi !!! Becky with him having you and Chris as parents he’ll be able to reach for the stars if he wants to. With God anything can be done, you and Chris live it everyday.
    Always in my Prays. Love you ALL!! Mimi aka Johanna

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